How to flirt with a woman. How to learn to flirt with men: a step-by-step strategy, practical flirting techniques. What should not be forgotten

Understanding how women flirt is not so difficult. It is much more difficult to figure out whether there really are advances on the part of the lady, or if you just thought.

Here are nine signs of flirting on the part of a woman - read and analyze your specific situation to learn how to correctly draw conclusions about whether a woman is flirting with you or not

Her eyes are drawn to you

You are sitting in a cafe and make eye contact with a girl who is drinking tea across the table from you. So it's not just... something got her hooked. Catching your eye, she looked away? Means, shy A little. If she also smiles at the same time, be sure that they are flirting with you..

Passes by

You see that girl going to go to the ladies room. Instead of walking past the table with the guy next door, she circles and passes right by you. Again, this is not just she liked you.

Appreciate her gestures

She touches her hair, curls her curls around her finger, bares her neck, pushing her hair to the side, especially when you look at her.. It certainly means that the woman flirting with a man, that is, in this case with you.

She spoke to you

This is a very sure sign. If a woman herself began a dialogue, then it is quite possible to count on the fact that she liked you. She sat down to your table, after asking if it was occupied (although the cafe is full of empty tables), and whispered something in your ear? She is probably looking for closeness so that you can smell her..

Reacts to jokes

Reacting positively to your jokes, she shows her disposition (sometimes even if the joke is not funny) with a delicate smile or soft laughter - she is interested in you. She looks at you inquisitively and asks where to laugh - she got bored with you.

Interested in your interests

Most likely, she is latent thinks about what you can do together in your free time. It turns out that she, as it were, is thinking over the scenario of your future date.

Makes compliments

This may mean that you not only interested in her, but really liked, and she is ready to go on a first date with a man like you. In addition, if she often calls you by name, this may also mean that you made a good impression on the lady.

Touches on the topic of sex

Whether she jokes about it or makes subtle hints - it's not just talk. You are not just interested, so seize the moment - invite her on a date. Only without too much pathos.

Touches, copies you

As if by chance a girl touched your hand his? That's right: you are very interesting. Another girl can start copy your sign language. This usually happens subconsciously, so it's unlikely you'll be bullied..

P.S.

The presence of one or two signs does not give complete confidence that you are flirting. But if you counted four or more signs, then this is really female flirting.

It is worth saying that women flirt not only when they want to meet. If, for example, your wife in a normal everyday conversation touches you, straightens her hair, and so on, this also means that she is with you. flirting. In that case, it's time finish the conversation and indulge in love games in bed. If you and your wife understand each other from a half-word and half-gesture, be sure that your family life will be bright, full of love and long.

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visual contact

How to flirt with a girl... I only wrote here what really works and helped me at one time.
In flirting, eye contact is very important, when you just look at a girl - she feels it, in fact it happens somehow by itself.
Remember, you probably had such a thing that you made a cool hairstyle and you go by public transport and people start looking at you, looking at your cool and creative hairstyle.

Even with such a seemingly ordinary hairstyle, they still pay attention to me

No, they do not point a finger at you, but you somehow feel that you have attracted attention.
It was so? I have more than once, because I love short hair)
I brought this comparison with the aim of explaining to you that a girl also feels when they stare at her, and we build flirting on this.

Try to make eye contact, but don't overdo it either.
Often guys overdo it and scare girls away with their penetrating gaze.
But!
Without eye contact is also bad, I have witnessed more than once when a girl is approached from behind or from the side and starts a conversation. Girls usually jump out of fright, which is not good.
Here in the video is an example of my acquaintance, which, in fact, cannot be called a pickup truck. Just an ordinary guy on an ordinary day meets an ordinary girl. But it works.

Once you have made eye contact, smile, show that you are positive and ready to communicate with her.
You can start flirting with the first phrase. You come up and say anything, no matter what.
Here, strain your brain a bit, yes, we don’t like this business so much, but try it, what would you say to a girl?
I would say: “Hi, this is a cool place, there is good music and beautiful girls ... My name is Tima, and you?”
This is the first thing that came to mind. No matter where you are, just start a conversation by showing your liking in the conversation.
By the way, when we catch visual contact, we don’t have to delay over time, after 2-3 oncoming glances, we can safely approach. The faster we accept, the easier it is for us, as the brain does not have time for fear or discomfort.

Smile

When guys ask how to flirt with a girl the first time they meet, my answer is very simple, start flirting! Yet simple!
Let's take it - you are in a club, walk in a circle, look where someone hangs out, this is done in order to understand which girls are hanging out today and which ones you can start flirting with.
Also smile at the people you meet.
It doesn't matter if it's a girl or a guy, an employee of the establishment... just smile and relax.
Why is smiling so important in flirting?
Because, a girl wants to flirt and communicate with a guy who is positive.

I always smile. Not just for photos, but everywhere. Of course, you need to do this in moderation so as not to look like a complete fool.

If you came to the club without a mood, or somehow you are terribly uncomfortable, then all this will be visible on your face.
And the girls will notice it, it leads to failures and drains. Think for yourself.

compliments

Often people overdo it with compliments for the purpose of flirting.
You are probably familiar with the situation when a guy just compliments from head to toe without pauses.
You have cool sneakers
You have such trendy ripped jeans
You always have such a cool hairstyle in your head
Etc.

If you go too far with compliments, then the girl may think that she is being hung with noodles))

After such (banal) compliments, the girl begins to look for a catch, what does he want?
+ she becomes uncomfortable, because not all people have 5+ self-esteem. You could put pressure on the patient and make a completely inappropriate compliment. Therefore, do not overdo it with compliments and do not rush to give them.
There is a separate video on this topic, look here for a whole exercise on ordinary communication with girls, but it will advance you in terms of communication

kinesthetics

What is flirting without touching?
There is the same fine line here, touching a little we will not be able to interest, overdoing it can scare away.
I used to have problems with kinesthetics.
I could approach the girl and start talking, making compliments, showing my sympathy. But I could not go to kinesthetics, after which I often received drains and refusals.
We can start touching very simply.
Easy for beginners. I tell this or that joke, we can just high-five, or hit on the shoulder for a funny joke. This is from the "SPIDER WEB" series, I think everyone knows what it is, if not, then write in the comments and I will write on this topic.
For the hot guys: Give me your hand and I'll tell you what's waiting for you today. After, she gives her hand, you start touching it, looking at it, saying something (what comes to mind) and at the end you add: “Today a very good person with a name starting with the letter T will appear in your life, any guesses?
As you can see, this is where flirting and kinesthetics begin.

If she does not make contact, then it is worth analyzing your approach from the beginning, identifying the mistake and working on it.

After we took her by the hands, without hurrying, you can kinesthetically and it is advisable to do this somehow without being pale. Letting your hands down, looking into each other's eyes. So we remove excess pressure from the girl from others. Believe me, as soon as you do all this correctly, she will begin to enjoy and understand that you are a good guy.

How to flirt with a girl in correspondence

1 example of SEX WILL NOT BE

Then I told the girl in a voice that we would not have anything, and we would just chat

Example 2
How to flirt over text.
You know, I myself am a lover of correspondence, even if it is online, even by phone.
I don't know how, but I have a predisposition to it.
I have often seen how people carry on ridiculous correspondence. And to the question (How so?)
They answer, (well, I prefer live communication, correspondence is not mine)
But, often we are limited to live communication, so we get to know a girl from another city, or the week is full of work and the girl is waiting for a meeting, there is only one way out.
It is necessary to flirt by correspondence, so to speak, to warm up the desire of the GIRL to meet.

The first rule of flirting in texting is no rules!
Yes, that's right, you write what you want, you lead the topics you want.
Flirting, this does not mean talking directly only about sex and that's it, it's more flirting between two people.
I'll give you a small example.

Well, you see for yourself. Even this is considered flirting.

As we can see, the girl meant: You will get slapped in the face, etc.
But I turned everything in a different way, it all directly affects our communication.
I sent a smiley and wrote (get)
Showed her that I really get what I want.. well, this)

The girl also liked this context, as they like to throw objections and want the guys to process it (such a screening is going on)
When I processed her objection, she thinks
(Hmm, the guy is not a miss, throws hints, keeps in touch, it becomes interesting to me)
What I wrote above is more like flirting phrases, i.e. the phrase itself can mean one thing! And you will turn it over so that it will carry a different meaning, rather vulgar)
Here is an example from yesterday's call to a friend.
I call, I ask (is it convenient for you?) she answers (I just entered the house) seize the moment?
Well
She says (only WALKED home) I start laughing into the phone, after which she asks with surprise, Tim, are you all right?
To which I answer, (everything is fine, you just said so. ENTERED me already it became funny ahaa)
Then my thought reaches her and she also begins to laugh at the phrase accusing me of vulgarity, which I think I deserve.
There are a lot of such examples, you just have to set yourself up in this way, after which, in life communication, everything will work out by itself. Practice, write, communicate,

Most importantly, do not confuse light flirting with the communication of a CONCERNED person.
How to distinguish it? I will write about it soon)

Listening skills

More than once before, he said and wrote how important it is to be able to listen to a person.
Nowadays, few people know how to listen, what do I mean by the word (listen?)
Listen to the girl and show interest in what she says.
Often guys make such a common mistake and talk a lot, do not even let the girl put a word.
It's cool when the tongue is suspended, but it's not good in communication between two people, and even more so in flirting.

In the process of flirting, take a break, ask a girl questions and listen carefully to what she says. Also, you can ask clarifying questions in the process of her story, how is it?
Let's say she tells how she vacationed last year with Mom in Italy.
You may ask: What was the weather like there? Did you go spontaneously or was it a planned trip? After such questions, the girl begins to understand that (mm, he is listening, moreover, he is also interested in what I am telling)
this will positively influence your communication as you listen carefully and ask questions.
When you learn to listen well to the interlocutor, in our case it is a girl, you will really enter a new stage of communication.

I have come to the conclusion that I have changed my mind about the concept of flirting and have now tried to convey this through this article.
If you have read to the end, then leave comments below, express your opinion.
And he was with you!

We are taught from childhood how to walk correctly, hold a spoon, read, write and the rules of etiquette. At school we study the great disciplines, learn the verses of famous poets, and practice physical experiments. Nor are we taught the one most important science. Flirting and relationships. In this article, buddy, you will learn and be able to try new lines of behavior. Behavior that attracts women!

To begin with, remember that there are two sexes on earth: men and women. At the same time, a man has more resemblance to a male lion than a woman! Therefore, to understand girls purely based on the experience of communication is the way to nowhere. Fortunately, there are such sciences as biology, psychology and social dynamics. And there are people who have tried to do it for you.

The main thing you need to know is that women are emotional creatures. Logically, convincing a girl that she likes you or having sex is a very unpromising option. If you don't believe me, go outside and try it! So the most important thing in communicating with the opposite sex is to evoke emotions.

1. Be neat and well-groomed.

For a man, natural beauty is not so important, but being nicely dressed, neat and smelling good is a duty! And do not listen to women who say: "We are against metrosexuals." That's bullshit. Believe me, Robert Pattinson takes more makeup than the average lady.

Stylish clothes and hairstyles are very welcome. Shoes must always be clean. A good tan is a sign of health, so it will be nice to go to the solarium. There is a rule of three colors. A man should wear no more than three colors. The belt always matches the color of the shoes. If you don’t know how to dress, read GQ magazine and start using the Internet on this topic.

2. Voice.

Did you hear the lion roar? Men who have a beautiful voice have increased success with women. And it is true. Namely, you need to be able to speak in a chest (velvet) voice. Luckily for all of us, the voice can be delivered very quickly.

You can practice growling, look for exercises on the Internet, or sign up for public speaking classes. And since you are reading this article, it means that you already have the motivation to do it. Yes, and women are programmed to respond to men with a loud voice. Feel free to speak loudly, but do not yell.

Instead of being cool and pretentious, be relaxed and friendly. Be always ready to communicate with women. Be playful. When you enter any room or transport, smile. When you are relaxed, making friends is easy. Playfulness - will direct communication in the right direction.

3. Eye contact with a girl.

Whenever you communicate with a woman, look only into her right eye! The result will be on the face. And remember the color! Attention to detail is a bonus.

4. Evoke emotions.

The more you unwind a woman emotionally, the more she will want to see you again.

Types of emotions:

• interest
• attraction
• safety
• excitation
• fear of loss

When your every interaction with girls makes their body boil with emotions. To learn this, you need to practice phrases, "male" chips and be able to change the direction of the conversation. You are a man - go for it! You are the leader! You are always in charge in a relationship!

If a girl laughs then she's half conquered. An example of how to quickly arouse laughter and interest in a girl.

You communicate with some woman (no matter what) ... Here you interrupt:

— Wait! Before I continue to communicate with you, I need to! OK? (then you ask her 5 different questions) - Have you ever been fired from your job? Do you believe in destiny? Do you often go shopping? Do you love pink? Are you afraid of lizards?

Yes, and no need to discuss the answers. Just asked a question, got an answer, asked the next one.

All! Regardless of her answers, you say: It was a test! You're cool! High five!" and give her five, and that's a touch. This feature will at least arouse her interest and laughter, because she has hardly ever interrupted communication like this.

You ask a girl what movie she would recommend watching. Then you find out who her favorite actor is. When she says, regardless of the answer, you give her:

- "Oh my God! You remind me of my 5th niece" and hug her.

5. This is not a lie - this is flirting.

Don't answer directly. Most men answer questions about their place of work, age and personal life immediately “as it is”. It's trite and boring. Try to tease the girl before giving out information.

For example, if she asks:

—What do you do for a living?

“I trade in white slaves!” or “I repair disposable lighters!)” will definitely make her laugh. Even the answer "What do you think?" better than dealing all the cards at once. Intrigue is another key to success. Naturally, then you can tell the truth.

Warning. If you work as a janitor, better say that you are a stuntman.

6. Compliment a girl unexpectedly.

Throw them like sand. Here you need to practice finding in a person what you like and talking about it with ease. For example, during a conversation, you understand that the girl has beautiful eyebrows. You interrupt the conversation:

—You know, you have very expressive eyebrows! (pause) So what were we talking about? And continue the topic or start a new one. It is important to learn how to throw compliments with the same ease as asking what time it is. When you are already in bed, you can hotly describe to her how you are drowning in her bottomless eyes, at the stage of flirting, this is useless.

7. Topics that are useful to talk about.

To attract a girl, it is best to communicate with her on topics that women love to discuss:

• Relationship
• Horoscopes
• Magic and psychics
• Hobbies

This is not a lie - this is male flirting. As soon as you create attraction, and the girl thinks that you are not an ordinary interlocutor, then you can rub her about politics (better not).

8. Visualization.

Say the word "Flirt". Think about what you associate with this word. Find your image, which will introduce you to this playful, talkative state. Now, when you want to flirt with an attractive person, use this image as a lever that triggers the desired behavior.

9. Man is not created to be alone.

We are social beings. We are beings who make connections. Sexual connections. Flirting for men is a weapon with which you can significantly increase your chances of finding a suitable partner and. Are you interested in sex for one night or maybe you are looking for a wife, or you want interesting communication, flirting, this is what will help you stand out from the crowd of illiterate men.

I wish all men more practice in exciting communication with the opposite sex.

Male flirting is a real art, the essence of which is hinting at sympathy without unnecessary pressure and obsession. Good flirting differs from bad flirting by maintaining the perfect balance, which is determined by knowledge and experience.

After reading this article, you will gain the necessary knowledge that you can immediately put into practice. Do you want to know how to flirt with a girl? Then let's get started.

Preparation

No girl will take seriously the flirtation of a man who is nothing of himself, at least outwardly. Try not to even start flirting without first looking at your reflection.

How do you look? What are you wearing? What car are you driving in? The higher the status of the girl you are flirting with, the more demanding she is in these parameters.

A good appearance can be a lifesaver for pickup trucks with no experience. Women are more disposed to good-looking men, ready to forgive them for stupidity and mistakes. What you need to get experience!
How else to interest the female gaze? Use accessories. They perfectly emphasize certain masculine qualities and transmit non-verbal signals.

Only a good watch with its presence can change a girl's opinion about a man. The most advantageous option would be a beautiful, expensive car. Let it be rented, but your appearance behind the wheel will put delight in women's thoughts.

Work on the pitch

Flirting with your wife is much easier than with some stranger - the wife has already fallen in love with you and knows all the advantages. But when meeting you, you cannot tell everything about yourself at once, it is long and not interesting. You will have to use other ways to present yourself well and grab attention from the first words.

Voice. A male voice can flirt without the participation of the man himself. Sometimes flirting with a girl on the phone is even more effective than the live option - the girl is not distracted by anything other than a strong male timbre. If you have ever thought about the lessons of oratory or even vocals, then here is another reason for motivation in the piggy bank.

Facial expressions and gestures. It plays a role only in live communication, but the role is important and sometimes decisive. Lively and moderately active facial expressions speak of the sincerity of the spoken words. Some women believe that they can determine with its help truth and lies, sympathy and love. So let them do it, do not hide emotions behind a lifeless expression.

Gesticulation perfectly complements facial expressions, with its help you can add more meaning to words, make them ambiguous, which is just fine in the art of allusions. You can add involuntary touches to the girl in gestures, which also helps to bring two people you barely know together.

Sight. Flirting at the highest level does not require words, just a look that will speak for itself. Remember scenes from movies where a man looks at a woman from across the room, and she is already starting to go crazy for him? This is the power of the gaze, which lies in confidence, masculine strength and the obligatory eye contact.

Conducting a conversation

We have considered passive flirting. You can work it out and not remember it anymore - it will become one of your natural characteristics. But with active flirting, things are different.

It consists in continuous work, honing skills and using the experience gained earlier. Let's look at how to flirt with a girl during the most active part - the conversation.

greeting or introduction

This step should be as intrusive as possible. Ideally, a girl should believe that she herself wanted to say hello or get to know each other, but you beat her to it. Do not use any formulaic and stupid phrases. Make your greeting and introduction unique.

When meeting, try to choose exactly the place and situation in which the girl is most inclined to communicate. Don't do it when she's in a hurry to work or listening to music on public transport. You should smoothly enter her comfort zone, but not break into it, breaking everything in your path.

Delicacy

It is delicacy and sophistication that are obvious signs of high-quality flirting. They lie in the fact that your words hint at sympathy and disposition for a girl, without straightforwardness and obvious phrases like "I like you." Why does it work?

The fact is that flirting removes the mental walls between people, allows them to feel comfortable with each other. Flirting is like alcohol during a feast - most people find it awkward to dance and engage in frank conversations without first "warming up".

It is awkwardness that is the main enemy of flirting, with which he does an excellent job. Imagine how awkward the phrase "I like you" would sound without flirting and sweet flirting. This will drive her into a stupor and take the girl out of her comfort zone. If sympathy on her part has just begun to emerge, then embarrassment and embarrassment will only make her blush and say “well .. well ..”.

Sense of humor

Many mistakenly equate flirting with a girl with funny joke and pun competitions. The reason for this is the stereotyped phrases from films and TV shows, which for many have formulated views on the pickup truck and the very essence of flirting.

Do not memorize collections of jokes and humorous phrases for a tackle - a sense of humor is not at all about that. A pre-prepared selection of jokes can really make a girl laugh, but you were going to flirt, and not clowning?

A real sense of humor in flirting is revealed with a high charisma and a wide outlook of a man. He is able to present information in an unusual way, criticize it in a funny way and draw such ridiculous analogies that his words seem simply brilliant.

This sense of humor is considered to be a talent, but if you try to develop in this direction, you will definitely achieve some success. The main thing is not to exchange the male core for the desire to make you laugh. They should not laugh at you, but with you.

Farewell and continuation of communication

How to flirt with a girl when you've already said goodbye? So that she wants another meeting! Start with goodbye. It should be creative and memorable.

Usually, girls remember the beginning of a date and its end. If you greet your beloved with a bouquet of flowers, and take one more flower in parting, which you have been hiding in your breast pocket all the time, her heart will melt.

Male flirting should continue after a live meeting, in correspondence or phone calls. But don't be persistent! Show that you have something to do other than flirt and courtship. Girls love strong men, not henpecked men without their own opinion.

Outcome

Male flirting is an art. Learn to keep a balance of perseverance, expand your circle of interests and work on charisma. Your additional bonuses will be a beautiful appearance, delivered voice, developed facial expressions and a confident look.

And most importantly, practice! After reading the articles, you will not become a conqueror of women's hearts. Better 100 failed attempts that will bring experience than 100 books read, the knowledge of which was not implemented in real life.

Hello dear readers. Today we will talk about how to flirt with a girl. Find out what you need to pay attention to in order to interest a young lady. Let's talk about what not to do.

How to flirt

1. Particular attention should be paid to eye contact. It is important to look the girl in the eyes when communicating. To create tension, look away from time to time.
2. Use your gesticulating hands to accompany words with specific gestures. It is unacceptable to cross them with each other, so just point out your isolation.
3. Tilt your torso forward slightly when talking to your lover to indicate your interest, but don't over-invade her personal space or you'll come across as pushy.
4. Do not forget that you need to smile, and the smile should be directed at the girl. This will allow you to create a positive atmosphere, will endear you to the interlocutor.
5. Surprise the girl with your wit. The young lady will be intrigued if you can prove yourself as an intelligent person with a good sense of humor. Be original, don't use phrases that she might hear from other guys. If the girl is intellectually developed enough, you can show your intelligence, but if not, then you should not boast much, flaunting your knowledge.
6. Ask about her. There is no question of the need to climb into the soul. In a conversation, you must indicate that you are interested in communication. So by the way you can ask how she spends her free time. If the conversation touched on family relationships, you can ask about the presence of sisters or brothers. You can also ask if the girl has pets, if she likes to play with them.
7. Improve your sophistication. It is very important to be delicate when flirting. It is not necessary to directly declare that you are passionate about a girl, it is better to leave room for her imagination, for this you should resort to hints.
8. Do not forget to give the girl compliments, but they should be implicit. For example, don't praise her clothes directly, but say, "how long did it take you to find such a great outfit!".
9. You need to find a way to indicate that you need to spend more time with her. For example, if a girl declares that she loves to swim, there is no need to say that they would gladly look at her in a swimsuit. It's better to say that you love girls who are fond of swimming, especially in the summer.
10. Choose phrases that allow you to feel its peculiarity. It is not necessary to say that the girl looks great, it is better to say "for sure, you easily attract the attention of men."
11. Be confident, but don't be overly arrogant. You need to understand that a man who knows his own worth, is confident in his abilities, can easily start flirting with a girl.
12. It is important that you stand in front of the young lady in a favorable light. Tell her about your friends, work, colleagues, point out your positive attitude towards all this.
13. You don't have to be self-critical. At the same time, you can make fun of yourself.
14. Talk about the things you are good at. At the same time, you don’t need to brag, just talk about your favorite activities, about what you are fond of, what you have succeeded in.

Possible mistakes

1. It is necessary to make a hint that you are interested in communicating with a girl. At the same time, it is unacceptable to use polite behavior too much, as you may be perceived as an alienated person.
2. You don't have to be direct. If the guy immediately declares his intentions, his goal will not be achieved.
3. You can not be overly aggressive, put pressure on the girl.
4. It is unacceptable to resort to intimate compliments or comments.
5. It is important to communicate in such a way that the girl does not get the impression that you are pretending to be a friend.
6. No need to slouch, it is important to indicate your confidence with all your appearance.
7. Don't try to be arrogant. It is important that the girl gets the impression that you are communicating on the same level.

Do not overuse flirting, it should not be present in your relationship on an ongoing basis. Otherwise, there will be difficulties in establishing close contact with the girl. The problem is that flirting will force you to get stuck at a certain stage. You will not be able to develop relationships, move on.

1. When communicating with a girl, it is important that she understands that you feel sympathy for her.
2. Remember that the eyes are the window to the soul. Remember that the first impression of you can be formed precisely by the right look. It is important that he demonstrates interest, and certainly not be arrogant or vulgar.
3. When the conversation starts, let the girl actively participate in the dialogue.
4. It is important that during the conversation you look at each other, no one is standing half a turn.
5. Do not forget that a smile radiates a sea of ​​positive, indicates your interest, purity of intentions.
6. Think over the topics for the conversation that you have. An awkward silence would be superfluous.
7. When you flirt, you should develop communication. It is important to remain resourceful, cheerful, ask the girl sincere questions, but not get into too personal topics.
8. When your dialogue comes to an end, you need to be sure that the girl has learned at least something about you. It is desirable that you manage to interest her in something, so that at least an emotional connection appears. After all, only in this way you will have a chance that communication with the young lady will continue, you will be able to meet her again, you can invite her on a date, to establish closer relationships.