What can a woman do in bed. The main mistakes of women in bed. Ideal partner - "melon - tomato"

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For several years, Italian psychologist Barbara de Angelis asked men of different ages and social status the same question: “What do you dislike most in bed?” The result of her annoying harassment was the classification of the most important mistakes, which, according to men, can lead to a break in relations.

As it turned out, very primitive roles that women can play in bed are unpleasant for men.

SEXUAL ROLE

1. ICE

Men don't like it when women act like they don't care about sex

WHY?

The bed is the place where a man is vulnerable. First of all, he is afraid of being rejected. Secondly, he begins to feel responsible for the sexual life of his partner, and he is fed up with responsibility. Moreover, he begins to suspect a woman of betrayal.

WHY WE DO IT?

Often this is due to the complex - "do not look like a prostitute." And for some of the women, playing “sexual corpse” is a kind of expression of pent-up anger or discontent: “I don’t feel anything. You have no power over me." In the language of psychologists, this is called a "passive-aggressive reaction": the partner looks passive, but in fact the lack of reaction is a form of aggressive behavior.

SOLUTION

Interest in sex is a demonstration of love for a partner. Whatever you say in everyday life, a man will first of all “listen” to your body. Ask yourself: “Would I enjoy sex if my partner behaved differently?” An affirmative answer is a reason to talk with your man.

SEXUAL ROLE

2. DON'T KNOW

Men don't like it when women don't know their body.

WHY?

It's stupid when a partner, barely touching his chest, expects the highest point of excitement from the lady. Men feel the same way. They get annoyed when a woman limits the foreplay only to the penis - just in a hurry to excite him so that "it" ends as soon as possible.

WHY WE DO IT?

Perhaps we grew up in fear of the male sexual organ, to which we often transfer resentment and irritation towards a partner.

SOLUTION

Women are often embarrassed to ask a partner what he likes, and do everything at their own discretion. But women do not have this organ, and how should they know how it works. Therefore, there is nothing to be ashamed of in tactful matters.

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3. LOUNGE

Men don't like it when we make them responsible for our orgasms.

WHY?

This puts a lot of psychological pressure on men - they feel like failures. When a partner does not say what she likes best and how to give her maximum pleasure, a man feels like he is passing an exam for a skilled lover.

WHY WE DO IT?

First, out of shyness. And secondly, many ladies do not want to admit that they are not the goddess of sex and it is quite difficult for them to achieve an orgasm. Most women prefer to suffer silently from dissatisfaction than to ask for help from a partner.

SOLUTION

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4. REGULATOR

Men do not like it when their partner commands them: turn around, stroke here ...

WHY?

First, clear instructions make men feel distrusted and controlled. Secondly, constant instructions cause a natural desire in men to regain leadership. They begin to fight for power in bed, instead of just loving.

WHY WE DO IT?

Many women subconsciously decide that it is better to explain everything than to expose themselves to the risk of another disappointment. Sometimes this behavior is associated with the great responsibility that women have in life. They approach sex as a project to be successfully implemented.

SOLUTION

The feeling that he is constantly being checked and directed is annoying for any man. Try to trust your partner and give him the opportunity to use the information received as he sees fit.

SEXUAL ROLE

5. HANDY

Men don't like women who are embarrassed about their bodies.

WHY?

This behavior makes men question the correctness of their own choice: if she is so scary that she demands to immediately turn off the light, what am I doing with her in this bed?

WHY WE DO IT?

In bed, complexes are aggravated in women who are deeply unsure of themselves. "Protection" in the form of clothes is destroyed, and they are not ready to appear before the partner in the "true" form. Many are simply embarrassed by extra pounds or cellulite, believing that they do not meet the “standards” of beauty.

SOLUTION

When a man is in bed with you, believe me, he no longer cares about cellulite. And he will discover the partner’s shortcomings only when she herself persistently points them out. Therefore, boldly demonstrate your dignity.

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6. CHATTER

Men don't like it when women talk a lot in bed.

WHY?

This prevents men from enjoying themselves. It is difficult for them to listen and make love at the same time, because this means the simultaneous work of both hemispheres of the brain. They make an effort to understand what the partner is telling him. The more words, the more his mind strains until he stops feeling anything.

WHY WE DO IT?

Nervous or feeling insecure, women relieve their tension in conversation. During sex, experiencing the strongest physical sensations, women often do not know how to relax, and resort to the most familiar way for them to discharge - talking.

SOLUTION

Concentrate all your senses on the body, focus your subconscious mind on what you feel, not on what you would like to say. Better yet, try to experience at least one act in silence.

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7. PUPPET

Men don't like it when women in bed are preoccupied with their appearance.

WHY?

When the ladies in bed straighten their linen, their hair or check if the makeup is smeared, they give the man a signal with their appearance: “Do not touch!” Instead of thinking about how to please their partner, men are forced to control attention so as not to destroy her appearance.

WHY WE DO IT?

From self-doubt. In addition, women are affected by the constant brainwashing that hammers into stereotypes of beauty and attractiveness.

SOLUTION

Men highly value self-confidence, the ability to emphasize their natural beauty. The partner should know that the beloved feels calm without makeup and other tricks.

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8. MANIPULATOR

Men do not like it when women have sex in exchange for some of their services.

WHY?

When a man is offered love not as a gift, but only in exchange for his “good” behavior, he himself begins to behave in bed like a businessman. If such a relationship suits him, they can be long-lasting. If not, they easily part with "business" partners if the "fee for services" seems too high.

WHY WE DO IT?

Sex turns into a "control lever" for a partner from the realization of one's own impotence in other areas of life. For many women, the bed is the only place in which they have real power over a man, which they begin to desperately use.

SOLUTION

The bed is a bad place for a showdown. And if sex turns into a "reward" for the good behavior of a partner, and his absence - into punishment, then the man is likely to run away from this relationship. Postpone problem solving for a day.

CHECK "KP"

Is your partner "fruit" or "berry"?

WHAT TO DO?

CUCUMBER AND MELON

Men of this type are serious and courageous and easily achieve their goals. It's hard to influence them. They are not subject to alcoholism. Women behind such men will feel like behind a stone wall. But they lack romanticism.

Women of this type often become bosses, but in family life they are helpless, like children: they cook poorly, do not know how to distribute the budget, and neglect household duties. But such a woman is a faithful and understanding friend.

TOMATO AND WATERMELON

Men of this type are gourmets, they are lazy and prefer slippers to a backpack and skis. But they are distinguished by increased sociability, but they are not always even in communication.

IDEAL PARTNER - "tomato - melon"

Women are emotional, love animals and the hearth. They are always fun and comfortable. They do not know how to weave intrigues, but they can admit tactlessness, because they often say what they think. The eccentricity of their character often leads to scandals.

IDEAL PARTNER - "cucumber - watermelon"

CUCUMBER AND WATERMELON

Men - it is about them that they say "There are devils in the still waters." They constantly experience mental turmoil, and their external calmness and restraint are fraught with spiritual tension. But they know how to think about global problems, and it is among them that scientists and inventors are most often found.

IDEAL PARTNER - "tomato - watermelon"

Women do not make scandals over trifles - they accumulate grievances and in one day are able to break all the dishes, often on the head of their spouse. But this is the most creative type.

MELON AND TOMATO

The men are somewhat feminine. They often choose creative professions. They have tact and excellent taste. But men of this type can be narcissistic egoists.

IDEAL PARTNER - "melon - cucumber"

Women are amorous, impressionable, passionate and constant in love. They make devoted wives. Despite the increased sensuality, such women are balanced in everyday life.

IDEAL PARTNER - "melon - tomato"

Contrary to popular belief, most men are just as inexperienced with sex as women. Skill is not given at birth, but even with the increase in the number of sexual relationships, not all men develop their skill. What can we say about young people who are just starting to discover the world of sex!

Surprisingly, women are also partly to blame for the inexperience of men. They sometimes don't know how to get satisfaction from their partners. After all, men think that sex is a big solo performance. And women are quite in solidarity with them, so they usually lie on their backs and think: "Well, well, let's see what he will do." But in fact, they also need to act, because sex is mutual satisfaction. A man will not be good enough in bed if his partner is completely passive.

First of all, a man and a woman should clearly understand that the longer the orgasm is prepared, the stronger it is and the higher the pleasure. At the same time, preparations for copulation should be divided equally, and both partners should act as actively as possible.

An indispensable condition is a high-quality preliminary love game, the purpose of which is to bring each other to a certain level of arousal. Moreover, this is really a game, and it can be played in any sequence, depending on mood and occasion. A man who “works” from top to bottom along the ear-chest-clitoris route every time, without changing anything, is acting absolutely wrong. After all, there is no delightful feeling of unpredictability of the next step, the magical effect inherent in every unexpected touch disappears.

What is important is the spontaneity of the action of a man seized with passion. And fussy attempts at all costs to make a woman feel good, endless questions and clarifications are extremely depressing. Looking at how the partner gropes the clitoris with one hand, squeezes the buttock with the other, tries to reach the nipple with the tongue, and with the heel even to some erogenous zone, the partner begins to think: “He tries so hard, but I still can’t ...” As a result, it really turns out no way.

What can be advised? To be more relaxed, "walking" with lips and tongue along the most sensitive points of the body, causing sexual arousal. The beautiful half of humanity has more than: neck, shoulders, décolleté, lower third of the abdomen, back of the thighs, toes, etc., but every woman has her own “favorite zone”, whose caresses are most desirable. We must try to find such a place, and, of course, do not forget to stimulate.

With light circular or arcuate movements with your fingertips, walk over all parts of the partner's body. It is better if these touches are barely noticeable, the sensations will be even stronger. Study each other, look for erogenous zones - buttons of conquest, trust and trust ...

Foreplay should not last less than 15 minutes, because women tend to experience clitoral arousal only at the end of this time, or even later. If a man has played a preliminary love game skillfully enough, then any normal woman will certainly have a desire to start copulation. Even if she does not say it herself, her body will in any case begin to send clear, understandable signals: the pelvis will involuntarily begin to make pushing movements, and the entrance to the vagina will be abundantly moistened with secreted lubricant. It is at this moment that a real man can demonstrate his skills.

The fact is that a woman receives the greatest satisfaction with the use of stepped excitation: first, the highest point of excitation is reached, then the excitation decreases to the initial level, rises again to the same state, and so on. After these simple actions, even a short-term sexual intercourse causes an unusually strong orgasm.

Naturally, a man instinctively wants to penetrate the vagina as quickly and deeply as possible, but one should not rush. First you need to enter only the head of the penis and start friction, going deeper and deeper with each movement, until it stops. If you do it rudely, then you can hurt your partner and thus reduce her excitement to nothing.

The beginning of the frictions is the best time to test the comfort of the posture. And if it is uncomfortable, it is better to immediately look for another position. In practice, there are six main positions: a man on top, a woman on top, a man behind, on his side, sitting, standing. Each of the main positions has a lot of options. Thus, partners will be able to choose acceptable positions for themselves, including taking into account each other's physical characteristics, experience and temperament. However, this will most likely not happen immediately, but after the partners try more than one position.

What makes sense to pay attention to? First of all, it should be remembered that any position that leads one woman to orgasm in 30 seconds may have absolutely no effect on another, being completely unacceptable. For example, the size of a woman's buttocks significantly affects the position during intercourse, and this must be taken into account. Similarly, the slope of the pubic bone or the thickness of the overlying muscles may make it entirely easier or more difficult for the penis to come into contact with the clitoris. Obviously, full buttocks lift the woman's pelvis higher, making the entrance to the vagina more accessible, but this advantage can be nullified due to the sharper angle of the vagina and the not very comfortable position of the clitoris, etc. That is why it is important that partners find a comfortable position in which they would feel at ease. This condition is the key to successful sexual intercourse.

Of no small importance is the change of postures from a psychological point of view, since different postures allow partners to determine for themselves which of them will take on an active role, and at the same time create rich opportunities for not so much erotic as aesthetic perceptions.

So, start slowly and lightly, then gradually speed up the pace, go a little deeper, deeper ... But do not forget that a man can fully give free rein to feelings only when a woman has already had her fill and it's time to finish.

During the act, you can make movements in any direction - forward, backward, to the sides, as well as up and down along the body of each other. With methodical movements, there are two ways of movement - “towards” and “pursuing”. In the first of these, a man and a woman simultaneously withdraw their organs from each other, and then move towards each other for contact. Then the cycle repeats.

When moving “in pursuit”, the woman seems to run away from her partner, retracting her organs, and he follows her without changing the depth of insertion. Then, when the movement is exhausted, depending on the position, the partner begins to move towards, and the partner “runs away”.

The most important thing is to maintain a certain synchronism in the movements of partners. Violation of this synchronicity is acutely felt by a man, sharply reducing sexual pleasure. If such synchronicity is broken, it is better for a man to stop, usually the woman immediately calms down, after which the “sex dance” can be started again.

The nature of the movement can be changed from time to time. The rotational movements that the partner produces are interesting, while the partner performs the usual frictions. You can use lateral movements from side to side with the simultaneous movement of the partner “up and down” in time with each other or every other time.

The movements of the female pelvis can also be more complex - with rotations, swings, etc. Also, a woman may not always move at the same frequency as her partner. For example, at first she can start moving to the beat with him, and then pick up the pace along the way. A man needs to listen to the movements of his partner when approaching orgasm and then help her. Sometimes a woman herself tries to suggest what needs to be done.

During orgasm, different women like different movements, and the partner should move the way the partner wants. Some like to freeze without movement, while the partner intensively moves back and forth, others like to move intensively, but not deeply, others like to press tightly against the partner with full introduction to the stop, asking him not to move.

We also note another important point that women often forget about, and men do not realize. The inner walls of the woman's vagina are supplied with muscles. By playing with these internal muscles, a woman can cause absolutely extraordinary sexual sensations in a man.

Many women would like to hear that a man is cumming, it amuses their pride. It's not that the partner needs to find out about the beginning of the orgasm from the partner. In any case, most men slow down their movements or stop them altogether, leaving the woman in no doubt about what happened. It's just a great way to show a woman how good she was in bed. Therefore, it makes sense for a man to try at least a little scream during orgasm, giving pleasure to a woman and adding something to his own feelings.

Post-coitus time, when a woman feels a slow, viscous decrease in arousal for a long time, is the most convenient moment to say a few affectionate words to a woman. Not much is required. Gently holding her in his arms, showering her face with light kisses, telling her how beautiful she is, how good it is with her, you can make a woman completely melt with love, and, on the contrary, refusing caresses after the act, a man demonstrates a complete lack of concepts of tact and ignorance the nature of a woman in whom sexual satisfaction causes a stream of spiritual emotions and an additional need for caresses and assurances of love. A woman is offended when a man does not even try to show that he really appreciates her desire to please him. Thus, by his actions (or lack thereof) after intercourse, this apotheosis of intimate human relationships, a man shows whether he is truly loving, or at least he should behave in such a way as to show that he is a sexually educated person.

And what kind of behavior of a woman in bed do men like? Above all, men want women to express their joy and sexual response. That is why many men like it when a woman takes the initiative in her own hands from time to time, thereby showing how seriously she takes sex. The feeling that he is desirable flatters a man's pride, and the knowledge that he has a partner who is ready to take the initiative and, if necessary, completely take on all the troubles associated with intimacy, causes him a state of blissful relaxation.

However, many women do not understand the importance of their behavior during intercourse and lie motionless, believing, apparently, that the woman's business is to spread her legs and let the penis into the vagina. Yes, a woman should not be so colorless! Feeling a penis in the vagina is only half the battle. You need to work your hips, bend under a man. Only active body movements do not allow the penis to wither into the vagina. Only they allow two copulatory organs to be sweetly "planted" on top of each other. And if a woman is embarrassed by such movements, lies motionless, then by this she inevitably turns a wonderful act of copulation into a rather insipid and routine event.

The old proverb is widely known that the ideal wife should be the mistress in the living room, the skilled cook in the kitchen and the whore in bed. This truth is true. The behavior of a woman who forgets about her “brakes” in bed is absolutely natural. This is how a real woman should behave, and there will be nothing supernatural in this, which other women around the world would not have done before her.

Try to change the position, hug your partner with your arms, cross your legs more comfortably (or put them on his shoulders), moving to the beat of his movements - and you will get more pleasure from intercourse. This behavior will be appreciated by the partner much higher than the previous one, when you were bashfully and indifferent. And, of course, give free rein to your emotions, not restraining yourself in the process of copulation from groans, grimaces, any movements. You can do whatever you want, completely surrendering to the gripping passion, without thinking about anything, including shyness. You're in bed primarily to please yourself, and that's what creates a love feast for both of you.

If we talk about the frequency of having sex, then it all depends on the partners themselves. Two or three times a week is the usual norm, but many people copulate much more frequently. The frequency usually decreases with age, but this natural phenomenon should not be overemphasized and upset if someone says that he or she does it more often. No one is challenging you!

Women love to discuss the mistakes of men in bed over a glass of wine at a bachelorette party, but do not forget that two are involved in sex. Therefore, there is a certain proportion of women's guilt in what is not at the highest level. Many couples are faced with the fact that after a while they come to naught. This not only frustrates partners, but can also lead them to break up. Although women are aware of the current state of affairs, they do not always begin to act. The best place to start change is with yourself and try to fix your own behavior. Experts identify 10 mistakes women make in bed, which are the most common and typical.

Simulation and simulation

A lot of women will agree with the fact that they often fake an orgasm. The reasons that prompt them to do so can be completely different, but the outcome of such a situation is always deplorable. Cheating in the bedroom will dull the desire to have sex over time, and the problem will increase every day. In addition, the partner may not even guess that he is doing something wrong. It is better to immediately dot the "i" and get mutual pleasure.

Lack of initiative

Men claim that the main mistakes of women in bed are related to the fact that they are waiting for the initiative from their partner. seem indecent and lose the reputation of a lady. But men, on the contrary, welcome women's perseverance and determination in sex. It excites them and awakens the fantasy. Becoming the initiator of intimacy, a woman can receive such a response that she does not expect from her man. The partner's interest in sex is an incentive, and the partner will be ready for new achievements.

Laziness and lethargy are the main enemies of quality sex. Often the mistakes of women in bed are that they do not show any emotions and wait until this "action" is over. When a partner doubts that his lady is pleased, he loses the desire to have sex with her. Do not be afraid that active behavior will be perceived as debauchery. erotic women and are unlikely to be upset because their partner loves sex.

Unwillingness to experiment

Sometimes women perceive the desire of a man to try something new negatively. They are sure that their partner has lost interest in them, but this is not always the case. When a couple is together for a long time, feelings begin to fade a little. To revive them and rekindle their former passion, you can experiment in bed. If a man asks a woman to do something that is beyond her morality, you need to calmly explain your point of view to him and offer your own version of how to diversify your intimate life.

Monotony in sex can ruin relationships, so there is no place for embarrassment in bed. Men will prefer an uninhibited temptress to a modest young lady, and this must be taken into account. If the guy is a terrible conservative, you should carefully ask him what experiments he is ready for.

Closeness and secrecy

Naming 10 mistakes of women in bed, men always mention the sexual closeness of their partner. To kindle a fire inside a man, it is enough to tell him about your fantasies and describe what gives pleasure. If you show your partner what and how to do, he will be able to give pleasure. Honesty and openness in intimate life will set the couple on the same wavelength and bring partners closer.

Men agree that having sex with a lady who lies motionless is a real torment. Not everyone can understand such mistakes of women in bed. To get mutual pleasure, you need to slightly expand your own worldview and change the missionary position to something else. Men love any manifestation of passion and desire: screams, moans or movements.

Be a mom partner

The sacred duty of a woman is to keep the hearth. Probably no one will argue with this. But in bed you can forget about it. In order for intimate life to excite male fantasies, at night a woman must be active, uncomplexed and a little depraved. And household chores and caring for her husband are best left in the morning.

Listing 40 terrible mistakes in the bed of women, men single out this one. Daily routine and fuss leave the fair sex very little time to take care of themselves. But you should not forget about cosmetic and hygienic procedures. The appearance of a beloved is very important for a man, but the partner should not see the process “from the inside”. All care activities must be carried out behind a tightly closed door, appearing to your man in all its glory.

Condemn the partner's need for a "strawberry"

The love of porn films is inherent in every man, and it is pointless to fight it. So that the partner does not withdraw into himself and does not hide his preferences, it is better to keep him company. This will help you get to know your loved one and understand what he would like to change in his sexual life.

Naming ten mistakes of women in bed, men also mention that many ladies are afraid of “dirty” conversations. Depraved phrases kindle passion in a man, so do not be shy to express your emotions and desires. Of course, everything needs a measure, but it doesn’t hurt to dilute the insipid and silent sex a little.

Discuss women in his presence

Humiliating other women and discussing their appearance can cause a very different reaction. Perhaps a man likes them, and he will perceive discussions as well as complexes.

Concentration on sexual aids

Some women blindly trust various manuals and educational materials on sexual topics. But do not forget that all people are different, and there is no universal rule. To get the maximum pleasure from intimacy, you need to focus on each other's preferences and feel the desires of a partner.

provoke jealousy

Denoting 10 mistakes of women in bed, men are sure that the girl’s desire to cause jealousy can be attributed to them. Most likely, such artificially created situations will lead to the disappearance of trust and, accordingly, the desire to have sex. In addition, such “maneuvers” can be the first step towards real treason, after which it will be very difficult to restore relations. For a man to admire his beloved, you must always look good and remain desirable for him. And also - often refresh intimate life.

Any self-respecting woman should know how a man works. The ability to find a loved one is the first step towards a full and harmonious sex life. If you skillfully handle the body of a man, he is unlikely to want to look for a mistress, because he can get everything he needs at home. In response, he will want to deliver the same pleasure to a woman.

Security Failure

No matter how passionate a woman is, she must always remember about safety. It is worth protecting yourself not only from unwanted pregnancy, but also from diseases that are sexually transmitted.

You can continue indefinitely or name 40 mistakes women make in bed, but these above are considered the most common.

Is it possible to understand in advance how your chosen one will behave in bed? Elena Kuznetsova, a family psychologist, consultant on interpersonal relations, director of the Me and You dating agency, tells.

Conventionally, she divided men into several types.

Infantil

If we talk about a young man under 25 years old, then behind his infantile appearance there may be a completely unchildish passion. But this is largely due to hormones. in sex can be extremely restrained.

The psychologist notes that many teenage boys are faced with a "Madonna-prostitute complex" when they love one girl, but feel sexual attraction to a completely different one. The young man simply does not understand how you can love and want physically the same person at the same time. If understanding does not come over the years, then a man lives in such a “confused state” all his life. Most often, it is just infantiles who encounter such a “bifurcation”. They are indecisive and lack of initiative in bed, not because they are not temperamental and not too sophisticated, but because the activity of the woman they love disgusts them. Show sexual fantasy and liberate them, in respect of which they do not make serious plans for a life together. And the beloved girl or, especially, the wife should be modest and pure. It is this impossibility to combine in the mind of an infantile man “two in one” - a wife and a mistress - often pushes him to betrayal.

Ordinary man

If this is a normal man, then the woman is clearly lucky with her lover, because he will try, first of all, to please his partner. Female ecstasy for a normal man is. And even if in the process of love intercourse a man is completely exhausted, he will still enjoy the fact that a woman, thanks to him, has experienced a real buzz.

Alpha male

Here it is of great importance how selfish this man is. If he loves only himself, then in bed he will only care about how to enjoy himself. The egoist is easy to figure out even during the courtship period. For example, in a cafe, he himself will take a better place, and a woman will settle down somewhere. When communicating with the waiter, the order will be made first, and then only turn to the woman: “Well, what will you do?” and so on.

It happens, however, that external brutality is just a shell behind which a man is hiding, capable of being “white and fluffy” with his woman. If a boy grew up in a good loving family, if he is his mother's child, then from childhood he absorbed and, of course, will take care of his chosen one, take into account her desires, including in bed.

Metrosexual

If, then metrosexuals, who themselves carefully monitor their appearance, make incredibly high demands on women. These male representatives will look at the partner from the tips of her toenails to every hair in her hair. They will notice those things that they would not even pay attention to, and if they did, they would not attach any importance to them.

But for metrosexuals, everything is complicated. If suddenly a woman “wounds” his aesthetic taste, he will immediately refuse her. And you never know what exactly such a man will not like. For example, even a mole, which, according to the metrosexual, is in the wrong place, can cause complaints. Such men are incredibly pedantic and squeamish.

To win the favor of a handsome man, a woman must constantly admire him. And if it does come to sex, such a man will allow you to please him. By the way, metrosexuals are big fans of oral sex.

At the same time, the psychologist notes, if a metrosexual, then he himself is able to be a good lover, gentle and refined.

pickup trucks

Most often, pickups are carried away by men who are not very attractive in appearance and inexperienced in communicating with women. Elena Kuznetsova has a negative attitude towards the pickup truck, calling it "pseudo-psychology".

I really sympathize with these men who, with modest external data, are taught to behave like a macho. It looks rather awkward when some slender boy tries to talk like a brutal man supposedly speaks. Like, "Hey baby." Men are offered a standard set of phrases without a discount on their appearance and personality traits, the psychologist notes.

Due to their own self-doubt, it is easier for a pick-up artist to communicate with a girl on the Internet. There it is easier for him to operate with memorized phrases, which often sound extremely unnatural. And they also love pick-up artists, while the personality of the interlocutor herself is of least interest to them. For this type of men, acquaintance for the sake of acquaintance is important. For them it is a kind of sport.

Pikapers rarely agree to real meetings, unless the lady strongly insists. In this case, as a rule, things do not go beyond one date. The reason is simple. A man doesn’t really need this, because the fact that he was “pecked” is more important to him, and a woman will simply remain at a loss from communicating with such a “strange” man. As a rule, pick-up artists are neurotic and constantly try to prove to themselves and others that they are worthy of the attention of a woman.

womanizer

Womanizers are the best lovers because they have studied a woman since childhood and know how to please her, says an interpersonal relationship specialist. Such men were brought up mostly by women, mothers or grandmothers. These are happy boys who realized in their childhood that they are the best.

But it makes no sense to count on a long relationship with them, because this type of men is fueled by an abundance of women. They, as actors, always need a crowd and recognition. Lovelace does not "specialize" in any one type of woman, he likes a variety of girls. For each of them he will find his own words. Womanizers are not only good lovers, they are also attentive and generous with women and out of bed. This is exactly why they are so popular with the opposite sex.

If you have questions for psychologist Elena Kuznetsova, you can ask them by writing a letter to the editorial office of AiF-Vladimir: [email protected]

In ancient India, little girls were specially trained in the art of love and sex. We believe that all knowledge about sex is given to us by nature.

We are almost accustomed to the fact that men are to blame for all our sexual failures: they either finish quickly, then continue sexual intercourse for hours, then they ignore our erogenous zones in principle, or they get off with short-term foreplay according to the same traditional scheme ... and etc. But let's think for a second: are we ourselves so sinless? ..

The most important and common mistakes women make in bed

Stop imitating!

Vasily says: “To be honest, I already despaired of finding a life partner. Just don't start telling me about my supposedly inflated demands! In fact, there is only one global requirement - I don’t need to lie! When a young lady, after watching an erotic video, in the second second of sex begins to howl like a wounded she-wolf, by God, I want to stop, sit next to her on the bed and applaud her "great" acting skills. Well, why do you, ladies, like to take us for idiots so much? And why do you think that we are all good for nothing? Yes, I will be just happy if she herself shows me how she used to caress herself, I want to please my beloved - is that so unusual? And when a woman starts yelling, shuddering and scratching my back in the best traditions of German porn films, I begin to think that she does not respect me or herself. For some reason, I no longer feel any desire to meet such a girl (who may have a lot of other advantages). Forgive me."

"She imitates!" is a very common male complaint. The female orgasm has a certain number of external signs, which, unlike passionate moans, can be “felt”. For example, in some women, the skin in the chest area turns red for a few seconds, in the vast majority of women, during an orgasm, the uterus drops slightly on the ligaments, which, as you understand, a man cannot but feel, and so on. And your more or less experienced chosen one will easily distinguish the theater from sincere joy. There is only one way out: immediately stop lying and be as frank as possible in your preferences.

Let there be light!

Oleg says: “My beloved girl is shy of her body and categorically refuses to make love in the light. She is really very full, which does not correspond to modern canons of beauty. But... it fully suits my tastes! I like that there is something to hold on to - even if fashion dictates to me that I am obliged to love the hanger, with which, excuse me, you get up all bruised. Besides, it seems to me that the unwillingness of my beloved to turn on the light is somewhat irrational - well, don't I see her fullness when she is dressed? I see, of course. And I'm very happy with what I see. It is a pity that my future wife does not understand this yet. I want to turn on the light - because she is so beautiful!

Psychologists like “Our Father” repeat that for a man it is the visual range that is the priority, and we all hide in a mink, like a frightened rodent. Really good sex does not even begin with love for your man, but with love for your own body. We are all not without flaws, but this must be fought at least at the level of self-awareness - decide for yourself once and for all: until I understand that I am beautiful, like the goddess of love, there will be no men in my bed! It turns out? No, bad. But, after all, you are a woman - so make a reasonable compromise: light candles. Firstly, romance is never superfluous, and secondly, this is not cellulite at all - this is a candle that glares!

No questions!

Anton says: “Women are very fond of repeating: “All men are the same.” Girls, I return the pass to you - you too. Especially when it comes to talking about feelings. You know very well: firstly, it’s really hard for us to talk about them (well, we don’t like this), and secondly, the moments that you choose for this ... Here I am, exhausted (I, by the way , fought for her orgasm for almost an hour!), and then she: “Honey, what are you thinking about now?” I just want to say: "Now - about the Champions League!" Tell me, if I ended up in bed with this woman - doesn't this indicate that this lady is not indifferent to me? I know you will now say that for many men this is not a reason to get acquainted. So be it (although I would argue), but do you really need an answer to the eternal female question in this case?

By the way, about “an hour fought for her orgasm” - a woman who constantly asks about eternal love after sex, most often did not experience an orgasm. Therefore, at least in this way he tries to arouse in himself a “feeling of deep satisfaction”. As for us, dear readers, we really shouldn't ask such questions. At least on the basis of rational considerations: if a man liked everything, then at such moments he doesn’t think about anything at all, and if he didn’t like it, then it would be better for you not to know his thoughts.

Don't undress!

Marina says: “My husband and I never had any special problems - he is attentive, very gentle, I feel very good with him, and, to be honest, I didn’t even suspect that he had any fantasies that he didn’t tell me about. said. Actually, I could have guessed - we practically didn’t talk about this topic at all ... In short, one day I came home from work (it was a terrible frost outside), and my husband suddenly dragged me into the bedroom without letting me undress. At first I was even scared - two sweaters, a pair of woolen tights, old grandmother's insulated pantaloons - not the most romantic "outfit" for having sex with your beloved husband, whom you want to excite always and strongly. But my husband “exposed” me with such enthusiasm that I also got involved and began to enjoy the process. I must say that the process turned out to be quite lengthy, and the sex as a result turned out, perhaps, the best in my life!”

Indeed, men are very fond of undressing us on their own. Well, firstly, at such moments they feel complete power over us - and it would be a big mistake to think that from time to time it is required exclusively by men suffering from a cruel inferiority complex! And secondly, undressing his woman, a man, as it were, “creates” her for himself and for himself. Why do you think the myth of Galatea is so popular?

Don't compare!

Olga says: “I am married for the second time. When I was still living with my first husband, I thought that the “female orgasm” was only an invention of women's magazines in order to increase the rating! But the second husband (beloved and I really hope that the last one) opened up a whole new world for me. So it's not surprising that the first time I had a hard time coming to my senses after this fantasy, I said that my ex-husband had never given me anything like this. From that day on, my Valerka, who had not even remembered before that I had some kind of life “before him,” began to be desperately jealous. In my opinion, this is nonsense!

This is not nonsense, by no means! The fact is that we ourselves very often force men to lie to us. “Am I better than your ex-wife?”, “Are you better with me than with others?” Of course, men answer us: “You are better than all who lived on this Earth!” But in reality, they don't always think so. Therefore, it is not surprising that our chosen ones, accustomed to such behavior, expect a similar trick from us. Therefore, never compare the man lying next to someone else. Even if it's for the better. He still won't believe it. And she will tense up: “Why is she lying next to me and remembering her ex? Did I do something wrong?" So don't say a word to him! And you can conduct a serious reasoned comparative analysis with great success in the kitchen of a girlfriend.

And finally - remember, only the one who does nothing is not mistaken! And we do very well. Therefore, mistakes can not be avoided by anyone. Another thing is that it would be worth minimizing them. The shortest way to do this is to treat sex as an art. And listen to the desires of your loved one.

What men don't like, we already know. But what delights the majority of the stronger sex?

Nude and light in the bedroom (remember that men love with their eyes!).

Striptease in his honor. Hone the ability to beautifully undress!

Responsiveness. Moans, "hot" words and other cute trifles, showing that a woman enjoys the caresses of her beloved.

Her orgasm. Men are not as selfish as you think!